How Committed are You to Your Commitments?
It’s that time – the beginning of a new year – when we’re ready to let go of the old and embrace the new. We vow to become better, to do things differently, achieve more of what we want, and do less of what we don’t want. We’re excited about our fresh start and are ready to focus on the goals we’ve set for ourselves or to fulfill the promise of resolutions we have made. We’ve put on our super capes and are ready to rule the world!!! But not so fast…
This is also a good time to take stock and think about what we’re committing ourselves to! We’ve heard about setting SMART goals, focusing our efforts, being disciplined to do that which we know we need to do. But, have you thought about your actual commitments? And how committed to them you truly are? If you’re not committed to your commitments, you’ll find ways, usually subconsciously, to undermine your own efforts. “Things” will come up. Distractions will distract. Big rocks of would-be accomplishments give way to small rock sidetracks.
If you want to achieve what you’re set on achieving, measure your commitment to your commitments. What are you willing to do (or do without) to reach your goals? If losing weight is your goal, then you can determine your level of commitment to that goal. If you’re a 3 on a scale of 10 in commitment, you can be sure that you will not make a whole lot of progress. If on the other hand, you are 9 out of 10, you recognize that this goal will require time, energy & effort, and sustained discipline. If you’re commitment is high enough, then go for it! If it’s not, then you’ll need to decide if you’ve chosen the right commitment to commit to. Maybe there’s a way to chunk the goal down to increase your commitment to it. Baby steps often work.
The last thing you’ll want when you decide to achieve something, though, is to feel like you’ve failed yourself or someone else. Can’t expect your sense of accomplishment or sense of self-esteem will remain in tack that way. So, if you’re not ready to commit, find a way to increase your level of commitment – using some type of leverage OR find something else that you feel you can truly commit to and save yourself the guilt trip!
For example, I want to lose 20 lbs. and I want to lose it by mid-April. Off the bat, my commitment is about 5 out of 10. I really want to, but am well aware what that will mean — eating less, eating the right foods, and exercising more. Sorry, folks, there’s just no other way around it. My leverage – a long pampering, indulgent weekend in some warm, tropical-like place; plus a spring consignment shopping spree! Now that gets me going. That’s my leverage. If I want to break this down into smaller chunks, then I can decide to commit to losing 5 lbs. or eating one healthy meal a day or taking one exercise class a week. See what I mean?
Starting small can help you build your “commitment” muscles and give you confidence to go for the goals that’ll make the bigger difference. To your committed commitments…!!!
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